Another Way of Life

I wrote earlier about how humbling and refreshing it was to work with people who genuinely care about the individuals they serve but I don't think I really put into words what I wanted to get across. As humans we all want to be a part of something that is bigger than ourselves. We want to be a part of something good; something that helps others. Even more than that, at the heart of it, we want to serve others.

I'm re-reading a book titled My Grandfather's Blessings: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. Dr. Remen is cofounder and medical director of a Cancer Help Program and has counseled those with chronic illness for over twenty years. Her perspective on life is both wise and thought-provoking. She contrasts serving with helping and fixing.

"True service is not a relationship between an expert and a problem: it is far more genuine than that. It is a relationship between people who bring the full resources of their combined humanity to the table and share them generously. Service goes beyond expertise. Service is another way of life." (p. 198)

She goes on to say that when one "helps" someone, they often feel superior because they are using their own strengths and gifts. Yet when one serves, they give of themselves. When we give of ourselves, there is no feeling of superiority which leaves the other person feeling small and cheapened by life's circumstances. Dr. Remen goes on to talk about how when we give of ourselve, our entire wholeness, we are often humbled to find that "the thing that serves best is not all [our] ... knowledge but something about life [we] may have learned from ... a child" (p.199).

What a way to live life -- serving others by giving of our selves, our experiences and our hearts.